Books as Frameworks: Personal Growth & Mindset
Table of Contents
100 Simple Secrets of Happy People (David Niven)
- Your Life Has Purpose and Meaning
- Use a Strategy for Happiness
- You Don’t Have to Win Every Time
- Your Goals Should Be Aligned with One Another
- Choose Your Comparisons Wisely
- Cultivate Friendships
- Turn Off the Tv
- Accept Yourself - Unconditionally
- Remember Where You Came From
- Limit Yourself to Thinking About One Subject as You Lie Down to Sleep
- Friendship Beats Money
- Have Realistic Expectations
- Be Open to New Ideas
- Share with Others How Important They Are to You
- If You’re Not Sure, Guess Positively
- Believe in Yourself
- Don’t Believe in Yourself Too Much
- Don’t Face Your Problems Alone
- Age Is Not to Be Feared
- Develop a Household Routine
- Don’t Be Overprotective
- Pay Attention. You May Have What You Want
- Don’t Let Your Religious Beliefs Fade
- Do What You Say You Are Going to Do
- Don’t Be Aggressive with Your Friends and Family
- Root for the Home Team
- Don’t Confuse Stuff with Success
- Every Relationship Is Different
- Don’t Think “What If …?”
- Volunteer
- If You Can’t Reach Your Goals, Your Goals Will Hurt You
- Exercise
- Little Things Have Big Meanings
- It’s Not What Happened, It’s How You Think About What Happened
- Develop Some Common Interests with Loved Ones
- Laugh
- Don’t Let Your Entire Life Hinge on One Element
- Share of Yourself
- Busy Is Better Than Bored
- Satisfaction Is Relative
- Learn to Use a Computer
- Try to Think Less About the People and Things That Bother You
- Keep Your Family Close
- Eat Some Fruit Every Day
- Enjoy What You Have
- Think in Concrete Terms
- Be Socially Supportive
- Don’t Blame Yourself
- Be a Peacemaker
- Cherish Animals
- Make Your Work a Calling
- Never Trade Your Morals for Your Goals
- Don’t Pretend to Ignore Things Your Loved Ones Do That Bother You
- Get a Good Night’s Sleep
- Buy What You Like
- Accomplish Something Every Day
- Be Flexible
- Events Are Temporary
- Be Your Own Fan
- Join a Group
- Be Positive
- There Will Be an End, but You Can Be Prepared
- How We See the World Is More Important Than How the World Is
- Keep a Pen and Paper Handy
- Help the Next Person Who Needs Some Minor Assistance
- Take Care Not to Harshly Criticize Family and Friends
- Some People Like the Big Picture, and Others Like the Details
- Do Things You Are Good At
- Go Visit Your Neighbor
- Smile
- Don’t Accept Television’s Picture of the World
- You Always Have a Choice
- Be Agreeable
- Don’t Ignore One Part of Your Life
- Listen to Music
- Let Your Goals Guide You
- Use Your Job Positively
- Don’t Forget to Have Fun
- Believe in Ultimate Justice
- Reminisce
- Be Conscientious
- Don’t Dwell on Unwinnable Conflicts
- Enjoy the Ordinary
- Focus Not on the World’s Tragedies, but on the World’s Hope
- Get a Hobby
- Envying Other People’s Relationships Is Pointless
- Give Yourself Time to Adapt to Change
- Focus on What Really Matters to You
- Realize That Complete Satisfaction Does Not Exist
- Surround Yourself with Pleasant Aromas
- Don’t Let Others Set Your Goals
- You Are a Person, Not a Stereotype
- Know What Makes You Happy and Sad
- Keep Reading
- We Must Feel Needed
- Say “So What?”
- Have a Purpose
- You Have Not Finished the Best Part of Your Life
- Money Does Not Buy Happiness
- What Does It All Mean? You Decide
100 Simple Secrets of Healthy People (David Niven)
- Use a Plan, Not a Piecemeal Approach
- The Quest for a Perfect Body Is Doomed
- Avoid Imagining the Worst
- Keep Healthy Foods Handy
- Easy Does It with Vitamins
- What You Do Matters
- Give Yourself Time
- Stop the War on Bacteria
- You’re Never Too Old to Improve Your Habits
- Don’t Buy the Fountain of Youth
- Always Being Right Is Wrong for Your Health
- Couch Time Affects Body and Mind
- Eat Your Spinach
- You Can Worry Your Health Away
- Fitness Is Free
- The Cold Doesn’t Give You a Cold
- Healthy Living Is an Attitude
- Cleaning Isn’t Clean
- History Isn’t Everything
- Don’t Delay - Emergencies Can’t Wait
- Enjoy Slow Music at Dinner
- Avoid Tanning Beds
- A Tomato a Day Is Even Better
- It’s Easier to Practice Good Health When Those Around You Do Too
- Physical Health Is Mental Too
- Breathe Right
- Use Discretion with Internet Advice
- Mold Is Everywhere - So Relax
- Turn Off the TV
- Drive Safely - When It’s Safe
- Eat Less, but Eat Often
- Look on the Bright Side
- Drink Grape Juice
- Home Affects Your Health More than Work
- Ask Whether a Medicine Is Right for You
- Memories Are Not Lost
- Ask Where Your Water Comes From
- You Don’t Have to Put Up with Secondhand Smoke
- Forgiveness Helps You Heal
- Use the Stairs
- You’ll Get the Same Care on the Weekend
- Talk to Your Pharmacist
- Wipe, Don’t Blow
- Common Chores Can Be Dangerous
- Let Your Stress Out
- No TV During Dinner
- Study Your Sports Drink
- In Sickness and in Health
- Remember, Ginkgo Biloba Won’t Help Your Memory
- Laughter Really Is Medicine
- Use Caution when Combining Remedies
- Teeth Whitening May Cause Discomfort
- Maintain Your Sense of Control
- Have an Orange
- Build Your Energy Level Gradually
- Pleasant Smells Boost Your Health
- Cherish Your Friends
- Secondhand Smoke Affects the Brain
- Don’t Pack like a Mule
- Have Some Tea with Your Remodeling
- Short-Term Stress Is Healthy
- Keep Bugs Away with Deet-Based Products
- Write It Down
- Sleep Well
- Your Teeth Are More than Something to Chew On
- Home Is Where Accidents Happen
- Value the Multiple Uses of Aspirin
- Religion Can Help Ease Your Burden
- Noise Matters
- Limit Your Exposure to Pesticides
- Hostility Hurts You
- Remember the Drugs We Tend to Forget
- High Heels Cause Knee Problems
- Guilt Is Bad for You
- Keep Variety in Mind When Exercising
- Don’t Use Fireworks
- Do You Work in a Sick Building?
- Stay Safe in the Sun
- Don’t Take Falling Down Lightly
- Limit Your Piercings
- Where You Live Matters
- Electric Brushing Is Easier but Not Much Different
- Be Careful with Botox
- Pay Attention to Chronic Conditions
- Weigh the Benefits of Alcohol Against the Risks
- Regular Vitamins Do the Job
- Hug for Health
- Exercise for Your Mind
- Don’t Let the Holidays Ruin Your Health
- Stretch Out and Fly Right
- The Most Treatment Is Not the Best Treatment
- Recognize the Difference Between Caution and Fear
- Be Careful What You Ask For
- Make Health a Convenience
- Don’t Drown Yourself in Water
- Health Is About Life
- Having a Pet Is Healthy
- Vegetables Will Taste Better in the Future
- Follow Through for Better Health
- Complete Health Is Rare
100 Simple Secrets of Successful People (David Niven)
- Competence Starts with Feeling Competent
- It’s Not How Hard You Try
- Creativity Comes from Within
- Take Small Victories
- You Can’t Force Yourself to Like Broccoli
- Resist the Urge to Be Average
- There Is Plenty of Time
- It’s Never Just One Thing
- Don’t Keep Fighting Your First Battle
- Change Is Possible, Not Easy
- Seek Input from Your Opposites
- Write Down the Directions
- Anticipate Irrationality
- The Best Defense Is to Listen
- Winners Are Made, Not Born
- Do Things in Order
- Get Experience Any Way You Can
- Self-Motivation Works Once
- Speak Slowly
- Where You Stand Depends on Where You Look
- Use Your Own Self-Interest
- Remember Who You Are and Where You Are
- Negotiate with Confidence, or Don’t
- Volunteer to Feel Better
- Remember the Task, Forget the Rankings
- Avoid the Second-Guess Paralysis
- Seek a Tall Plateau, Not the Peak
- Play the Odds
- The Past Is Not the Future
- Get a Good Night’s Sleep
- It Starts and Ends with You
- Notice Patterns
- Efficiency in Everything
- Tomorrow Will Be a Better Day (But How Exactly?)
- Lessons Can’t Threaten
- Success Is Formula, Not Fantasy
- You Need to Know More Than Just How Talented You Are
- Role Models Are Not One-Size-Fits-All
- Learn from Losses
- Embrace Work; It May Have to Last Forever
- Exercise and Eat Right
- Boredom Is the Enemy
- Be Clear About Your Role in the Outcome
- Make Change Count
- Listening Is More Than Not Talking
- Take Off Your Blinders
- You’ll Get What You’re Afraid Of
- Think About Who You Ought to Be
- Leadership Is Contagious
- Want Support? Deserve It
- You Will Give Up Faster if You’re Not in Control
- Life Is Not a Zero-Sum Game
- You Don’t Have to Get Straight A’s Anymore
- Whet Your Appetite for Success
- Remember the Difference Between You and Everybody Else
- Your Work and Home Lives Must Fit Together
- Nobody Wins Without a Loser
- Tell Clean Jokes
- Don’t Want Everything
- Look for Value
- Get Your Motivation Where You Can Find It
- Be an Expert
- Failure Is Not Trying
- You Are Not in This Alone
- Your Goals Are a Living Thing
- Avoid Roller-Coaster Emotions
- Care
- You Can’t Be Persistent Without Perspective
- Changing Jobs Doesn’t Change You
- It Might Get Worse Before It Gets Better
- If You Don’t Believe, No One Else Will
- You’ll Work Harder if You Feel Wanted
- Don’t Talk to Yourself
- Seek Coherence and Congruence
- If You Doubt, You’re Out
- Always Think About What’s Next
- Value Practical Knowledge
- See the Risk in Doing Nothing
- Face Conflict Head-On
- Money Isn’t Everything
- Be Realistic About Yourself
- Find Your Own Path
- Own What You Do
- Be Honest for Your Future
- You Need to Know What You Are Looking For
- Don’t Forget Packaging
- Learn to Lead Yourself
- A Victory at All Costs Is Not a Victory
- People Who Have It Right Work Harder to Make It Better
- Don’t Run in the Wrong Direction Just Because You’re Near the Finish Line
- Hope Springs Internal
- Think as if Others Can Read Your Mind
- You’ll Get Knocked Down and Then Get Back Up
- Keep Your Goals Where You Can See Them
- Don’t Settle
- What Is the Point?
- Win Your Own Respect First
- Your Goals Must Engage All of You
- Take Action
- Only You Can Say if This Is a World You Can Succeed In
100 Simple Secrets of the Best Half of Life (David Niven)
- Happiness Is Not an Accident
- You Must Approve of Yourself
- Keep Going
- Try Something New
- You Still Are Who You Were
- Happy Looks for Happy
- The Mirror Will Be Kinder
- Fun Is Not Over
- See the Beauty Around You
- Never Retire from Life
- Have Time for Thoughts
- Turn Off the Bad News
- Express Yourself in What You Do
- You Are Not Old
- Money Can’t Buy Happiness
- The Only Requirement Is Embracing the Lack of Requirements
- Keep Your Fears in Line
- Sign Up for Everything
- Be Decisive
- Believe You Can
- See the Real Pay in Work
- Know Your Health
- See a New Way
- Avoid Generational Competition
- Respond to Stress
- The Best Life Needs No Trophy
- The Future Can Be Brighter Than the Past
- Stay in Control
- See Beyond You
- Transitions Can Be Both Happy and Sad
- Embrace Challenges
- Get Away from It All
- Live Beyond Your Family Model
- Life Gets Easier
- Volunteer for Yourself
- Never Give Up
- Get Out of the Car
- Don’t Gamble Your Future
- Find a Physician You Like
- Who You Are Is Not Just What You Do
- Foundations Shift, but Life Stands
- Share What You Know
- Discuss Your Worries, Then Don’t Dwell on Them
- It All Looks Better over Time
- Keep Relationships on Level Ground
- Adapt
- Make Home Home
- Don’t Let Irritation Be Louder Than Joy
- Geography Does Not Limit Family Life
- Vote
- Forgive
- Eat for Nutrition, Not for Compensation
- We’re Happier Older Than Younger
- Each Part of Life Must Function
- See the Person, Not the Label
- Laugh Your Way to Answers
- Exercise
- Feed and Cultivate Friendships
- Communicate on Their Terms
- Remember to Care for Yourself When Caring for Others
- Be Careful Choosing Home Associations
- See Around Career Roadblocks
- See a Kid, Be a Kid Again
- Stretch
- Let Old Secrets Stay Secrets
- Listen to Your Favorite Music
- Practice Maintenance for Life
- Call Town Hall
- Pay Attention to Nonverbal Communication
- Wash the Dishes
- Be Open to a New View
- Love Evolves but Can Stay Strong
- Use a Computer
- The Youngest and Oldest Like Work the Least
- Compromise What but Never Who
- Your History Strengthens Your Future
- Share Your Home
- Honor Your Spiritual Beliefs
- Wear Many Hats
- Put Stuff in Its Place
- Seek Meaning
- We Never Outgrow Jealousy
- Cherish Your Heritage
- Share Your Fun
- Pay Attention to Your Dreams
- All the Time Is Too Much
- Regrets Hold Us Back
- See Your Goals
- Give the Gift of Yourself
- Boredom Is the Enemy
- Redefine Career
- Travel the Stable Road
- It’s Less What Happened Than What Happened Next
- You Define Success
- Never Stop Learning
- View Your Life as a Choice
- Make Your Mark on the Next Generation
- Why Not Be Optimistic?
- There’s No Deadline for Your Dreams
- Do It Now
100 Things Successful People Do (Nigel Cumberland)
100 Things Successful People Do
- Follow your dreams
- Ask for help
- Create your future
- Be emotionally intelligent
- Do the opposite
- Turn work into play
- Start each day well
- Make friends with your past
- Take breaks
- Be a student of life
- Trust your gut
- Banish your stress
- Be likeable
- Say ‘yes’
- Say ‘no’
- Volunteer your time
- Focus on things you can control
- Live within your means
- Live in the ‘real world’
- Stay focused
- Love more
- Reinvent yourself
- Stay healthy
- Forgive others
- Be part of a tribe
- Exude confidence
- Give credit where it’s due
- Reduce attachments to possessions
- Build rapport
- Live mindfully
- Accept compromises
- Be more than your 9-5
- Know yourself
- Embrace the journey of getting older
- Be both an extrovert and an introvert
- Live with an open mind
- Be the best parent
- Walk away from pollution
- Leave your comfort zone
- Appreciate those closest to you
- Seek wisdom and use it
- Model the best
- Have the courage to fail
- Accept yourself
- Watch and manage your thoughts
- Remember people
- Discover what drives you
- Appreciate what you’ve got
- Make peace with your parents
- Laugh more
- Stay unique
- Sleep well
- Go your own way
- Seek simplicity
- Do it today
- Seek experiences over things
- Have clearly written goals
- Give reading your full attention
- Get a thick skin
- Be generous
- Eat and drink well
- Seek and create harmony
- Get home on time
- Work for as long as you can
- Have great body language
- Choose and keep your friends wisely
- Be curious
- Do what you say
- Pause before you press ‘Send’
- Make friends with fear
- Tell the truth
- Become an expert at something
- Apologize when you are wrong
- Stay in touch with old friends
- Keep the bigger picture in mind
- Embrace technology
- Persist and don’t give up
- Watch out for addictions
- Spend more time outside in nature
- Use your intelligence wisely
- Focus on character not popularity
- Say goodbye to toxic people
- Learn from your grandparents (before it is too late)
- Have a true character that makes you proud
- Practise gratitude
- Focus on good news
- Genuine success cannot be faked
- Grow old disgracefully
- Breathe well
- Travel far
- Keep a journal
- Get lost … and find yourself again
- Plan ahead
- Tick off your bucket list
- Help to sustain the planet
- Connect with something bigger than yourself
- Unlearn everything
- Mentor others to success
- Leave a legacy
- Regret nothing
The 10 Things Successful People Never Do
- Never Close Your Eyes
- Never Hurt and Destroy
- Never Forget Where You Came From
- Never Stop Being You
- Never Lose Sight
- Never Waste
- Never Blindly Jump
- Never Lose Faith
- Never Stop Growing
- Never Say Never
12 Rules for Life (Jordan B. Peterson)
- Stand up straight with your shoulders back
- Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping
- Make friends with people who want the best for you
- Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today
- Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them
- Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world
- Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient)
- Tell the truth - or, at least, don’t lie
- Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t
- Be precise in your speech
- Do not bother children when they are skateboarding
- Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street
13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do (Amy Morin)
- They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
- They Don’t Give Away Their Power
- They Don’t Shy Away from Change
- They Don’t Focus on Things They Can’t Control
- They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
- They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
- They Don’t Dwell on the Past
- They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
- They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
- They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure
- They Don’t Fear Alone Time
- They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything
- They Don’t Expect Immediate Results
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff (Richard Carlson)
- Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
- Make Peace with Imperfection
- Let Go of the Idea that Gentle, Relaxed People Can’t Be Superachievers
- Be Aware of the Snowball Effect of Your Thinking
- Develop Your Compassion
- Remind Yourself that When You Die, Your ‘In Basket’ Won’t Be Empty
- Don’t Interrupt Others or Finish Their Sentences
- Do Something Nice for Someone Else - and Don’t Tell Anyone About It
- Let Others Have the Glory
- Learn to Live in the Present Moment
- Imagine that Everyone Is Enlightened Except You
- Let Others Be ‘Right’ Most of the Time
- Become More Patient
- Create ‘Patience Practice Periods’
- Be the First One to Act Loving or Reach Out
- Ask Yourself the Question, ‘Will This Matter a Year from Now?’
- Surrender to the Fact that Life Isn’t Fair
- Allow Yourself to Be Bored
- Lower Your Tolerance to Stress
- Once a Week, Write a Heartfelt Letter
- Imagine Yourself at Your Own Funeral
- Repeat to Yourself, ‘Life Isn’t an Emergency’
- Experiment with Your Back Burner
- Spend a Moment Every Day Thinking of Someone to Thank
- Smile at Strangers, Look into Their Eyes, and Say Hello
- Set Aside Quiet Time, Every Day
- Imagine the People in Your Life as Tiny Infants and as One-Hundred-Year-Old Adults
- Seek First to Understand
- Become a Better Listener
- Choose Your Battles Wisely
- Become Aware of Your Moods and Don’t Allow Yourself to Be Fooled by the Low Ones
- Life Is a Test. It Is Only a Test
- Praise and Blame Are All the Same
- Practice Random Acts of Kindness
- Look Beyond Behavior
- See the Innocence
- Choose Being Kind Over Being Right
- Tell Three People (Today) How Much You Love Them
- Practice Humility
- When in Doubt about Whose Turn It Is to Take Out the Trash, Go Ahead and Take It Out
- Avoid Weatherproofing
- Spend a Moment, Every Day, Thinking of Someone to Love
- Become an Anthropologist
- Understand Separate Realities
- Develop Your Own Helping Rituals
- Every Day, Tell at Least One Person Something You Like, Admire, or Appreciate about Them
- Argue for Your Limitations, and They’re Yours
- Remember that Everything Has God’s Fingerprints on it
- Resist the Urge to Criticize
- Write Down Your Five Most Stubborn Positions and See if You Can Soften Them
- Just for Fun, Agree with Criticism Directed Toward You (Then Watch It Go Away)
- Search for the Grain of Truth in Other Opinions
- See the Glass as Already Broken (and Everything Else Too)
- Understand the Statement, ‘Wherever You Go, There You Are’
- Breathe Before You Speak
- Be Grateful when You’re Feeling Good and Graceful when You’re Feeling Bad
- Become a Less Aggressive Driver
- Relax
- Adopt a Child Through the Mail
- Turn Your Melodrama into a Mellow-Drama
- Read Articles and Books with Entirely Different Points of View from Your Own and Try to Learn Something
- Do One Thing at a Time
- Count to Ten
- Practice Being in the ‘Eye of the Storm’
- Be Flexible with Changes in Your Plans
- Think of What You Have Instead of What You Want
- Practice Ignoring Your Negative Thoughts
- Be Willing to Learn from Friends and Family
- Be Happy Where You Are
- Remember that You Become What You Practice Most
- Quiet the Mind
- Take Up Yoga
- Make Service an Integral Part of Your Life
- Do a Favor and Don’t Ask For, or Expect, One in Return
- Think of Your Problems as Potential Teachers
- Get Comfortable Not Knowing
- Acknowledge the Totality of Your Being
- Cut Yourself Some Slack
- Stop Blaming Others
- Become an Early Riser
- When Trying to Be, Focus on Little Things
- Remember, One Hundred Years from Now, All New People
- Lighten Up
- Nurture a Plant
- Transform Your Relationship to Your Problems
- The Next Time You Find Yourself in an Argument, Rather than Defend Your Position, See if You Can See the Other Point of View First
- Redefine a ‘Meaningful Accomplishment’
- Listen to Your Feelings (They Are Trying to Tell You Something)
- If Someone Throws You the Ball, You Don’t Have to Catch It
- One More Passing Show
- Fill Your Life with Love
- Realize the Power of Your Own Thoughts
- Give Up on the Idea that ‘More Is Better’
- Keep Asking Yourself, ‘What’s Really Important?’
- Trust Your Intuitive Heart
- Be Open to ‘What Is’
- Mind Your Own Business
- Look for the Extraordinary in the Ordinary
- Schedule Time for Your Inner Work
- Live This Day as if It Were Your Last. It Might Be!
Finding Your Element (Ken Robinson et al.)
- Finding Your Element
- What Are You Good At?
- How Do You Know?
- What Do You Love?
- What Makes You Happy?
- What’s Your Attitude?
- Where Are You Now?
- Where’s Your Tribe?
- What’s Next?
- Living a Life of Passion and Purpose
How Successful People Grow (John C. Maxwell)
- Become an Intentional Learner: Growth Doesn’t Just Happen
- Develop Self-Awareness: You Must Know Yourself to Grow Yourself
- Believe in Yourself: You Must See Value in Yourself to Add Value to Yourself
- Set Aside Time to Reflect: Learning to Pause Allows Growth to Catch Up with You
- Embrace Discipline Daily: Motivation Gets You Going Discipline Keeps You Growing
- Seek Out a Positive Environment: Growth Thrives in Conducive Surroundings
- Become Highly Strategic: To Maximize Growth. Develop Strategies
- Turn Negatives into Positives: Good Management of Bad Experiences Leads to Great Growth
- Grow from the Inside Out: Character Growth Determines the Height of Your Personal Growth
- Get Used to Stretching Yourself: Growth Stops When You Lose the Tension Between Where You Are and Where You Could Be
- Make Smart Trade-Offs: You Have to Give Up to Grow Up
- Learn to Ask More Questions: Growth Is Stimulated by Asking Why?
- Find a Good Mentor: It’s Hard to Improve When You Have No One but Yourself to Follow
- Focus on Enlarging Your Potential: Growth Always Increases Your Capacity
- Help Others Reach Their Potential: Growing Yourself Enables You to Grow Others
How Successful People Think (John C. Maxwell)
- Cultivate Big-Picture Thinking
- Engage in Focused Thinking
- Harness Creative Thinking
- Employ Realistic Thinking
- Utilize Strategic Thinking
- Explore Possibility Thinking
- Learn from Reflective Thinking
- Question Popular Thinking
- Benefit from Shared Thinking
- Practice Unselfish Thinking
- Rely on Bottom-Line Thinking
How Successful People Win (John C. Maxwell)
- What Successful People Know About Winning
- Cultivate Humility: The Spirit of Learning
- Face Reality: The Foundation of Learning
- Accept Responsibility: The First Step of Learning
- Seek Improvement: The Focus of Learning
- Nurture Hope: The Motivation of Learning
- Develop Teachability: The Pathway of Learning
- Overcome Adversity: The Catalyst for Learning
- Expect Problems: Opportunities for Learning
- Understand Bad Experiences: The Perspective for Learning
- Embrace Change: The Price of Learning
- Benefit from Maturity: The Value of Learning
- Winning Isn’t Everything, but Learning Is
Lessons on Success (Napoleon Hill)
- Definiteness of Purpose
- Mastermind Alliance
- Applied Faith
- Going the Extra Mile
- Pleasing Personality
- Personal Initiative
- Positive Mental Attitude
- Enthusiasm
- Self-Discipline
- Accurate Thinking
- Controlled Attention
- Teamwork
- Adversity and Defeat
- Creative Vision
- Health
- Budgeting Time and Money
- Habits
Nine Things Successful People Do Differently (Heidi Grant Halvorson)
- Get Specific
- Seize the Moment to Act on Your Goals
- Know Exactly How Far You Have Left to Go
- Be a Realistic Optimist
- Focus on Getting Better, Rather Than Being Good
- Have Grit
- Build Your Willpower Muscle
- Don’t Tempt Fate
- Focus on What You Will Do, Not What You Won’t Do
Same as Ever (Morgan Housel)
- Hanging by a Thread: If you know where we’ve been, you realize we have no idea where we’re going.
- Risk Is What You Don’t See: We are very good at predicting the future, except for the surprises - which tend to be all that matter.
- Expectations and Reality: The first rule of happiness is low expectations.
- Wild Minds: People who think about the world in unique ways you like also think about the world in unique ways you won’t like.
- Wild Numbers: People don’t want accuracy. They want certainty.
- Best Story Wins: Stories are always more powerful than statistics.
- Does Not Compute: The world is driven by forces that cannot be measured.
- Calm Plants the Seeds of Crazy: Crazy doesn’t mean broken. Crazy is normal; beyond the point of crazy is normal.
- Too Much, Too Soon, Too Fast: A good idea on steroids quickly becomes a terrible idea.
- When the Magic Happens: Stress focuses your attention in ways that good times can’t.
- Overnight Tragedies and Long-Term Miracles: Good news comes from compounding, which always takes time, but bad news comes from a loss in confidence or a catastrophic error that can occur in a blink of an eye.
- Tiny and Magnificent: When little things compound into extraordinary things.
- Elation and Despair: Progress requires optimism and pessimism to coexist.
- Casualties of Perfection: There is a huge advantage to being a little imperfect.
- It’s Supposed to Be Hard: Everything worth pursuing comes with a little pain. The trick is not minding that it hurts.
- Keep Running: Most competitive advantages eventually die.
- The Wonders of the Future: It always feels like we’re falling behind, and it’s easy to discount the potential of new technology.
- Harder Than It Looks and Not as Fun as It Seems: “The grass is always greener on the side that’s fertilized with bullshit.”
- Incentives: The Most Powerful Force in the World: When the incentives are crazy, the behavior is crazy. People can be led to justify and defend nearly anything.
- Now You Get It: Nothing is more persuasive than what you’ve experienced firsthand.
- Time Horizons: Saying “I’m in it for the long run” is a bit like standing at the base of Mount Everest, pointing to the top, and saying, “That’s where I’m heading.” Well, that’s nice. Now comes the test.
- Trying Too Hard: There are no points awarded for difficulty.
- Wounds Heal, Scars Last: What have you experienced that I haven’t that makes you believe what you do? And would I think about the world like you do if I experienced what you have?
Secrets of Happy People (Matt Avery)
- Forget about being happy
- Who are you, and who do you want to be?
- Investing your time isn’t a waste of time
- Plan for happiness - since you might be dead tomorrow
- Slow down for the quick route to happy
- Stop chasing your tail
- Don’t try to be happy
- Celebrating your successes
- Get over it
- If you can’t beat them - beat them anyway
- Get real
- Optimism versus pessimism - versus realism
- Stop worrying about being happy
- Compared to other people, you’re rubbish
- It’s better to be worse off
- Are you certain you want to be positive?
- Motivation and reward
- Do it now!
- What’s the point?
- Cut it out
- Actively promoting passive positivity
- The godsend you come to hate
- Your future happiness lies in the past
- Your best today is tomorrow
- So you think your life sucks?
- Enjoy the things you hate
- Your happiness, your problem
- The ten kinds of happy - and how to find them
- The ten kinds of unhappy - and how to beat them
- Money is everything
- Write your own obituary
- Peace, tranquillity and calm… Now! Now! Now!
- Make as many mistakes as you can
- Move to a happier place
- The happiness gym
- Keep things in perspective
- You are happy - you just don’t know it
- Don’t settle for acceptance
- Good enough’ is not good enough
- You don’t want to be rich
- Richly poor
- The wealth of poverty
- Buy your way to happiness
- Everyday miracles
- The mania of calm
- Focus your focus
- By yourself, you’re never alone
- Don’t get boxed in
- Living for now
- Spying on yourself
Secrets of the NLP Masters (Judy Bartkowiak)
- Set a Realistic Goal
- Set a Compelling Goal
- Reframe the Goal
- Understand the Goal
- Understand Other People’s Reactions
- Know Whom to Model
- Keep the Goal Within Control
- Use Metaphors to Gain Confidence
- Focus on What You Want
- Know Who You Are When the Goal Is Achieved
- Delete Your Criticism
- Believe That There’s No Such Thing as Failure
- Don’t Distort Your Feedback
- Beware of Generalizing Your Feedback
- Change Your Beliefs Through Feedback
- Give Feedback That Your Staff Can Learn From
- Give Hypnotic Feedback to Change Behaviour
- Use the Feedback Sandwich
- Give Feedback Without Words
- Give Feedback to Your Children
- Manage Your Moods
- Anchor a Great State
- Be Aware of Unconscious Anchors
- Use Anchoring to Relieve Stress
- Use Anchoring for Sport
- Access the Inner CCTV Camera
- Look at the World from Second Position
- Use the Three Positions Flexibly
- Question Limiting Beliefs
- Conquer Your Fears
- Get Rapport Quickly
- Get Rapport with a Visual Person
- Get Rapport with an Auditory Person
- Get Rapport with a Kinaesthetic Person
- Teach Effectively with VAK
- Learn Visually
- Learn in Auditory Style
- Learn in Kinaesthetic Style
- Use ‘Big Chunk’ and ‘Small Chunk’ Processing at Work
- Give or Make a Choice Where There Is None
- Know Where You Are - Past, Present or Future
- Know When to Match - and When to Mismatch
- Use the Power of Disassociation
- Aim for What You Want Less Of
- Assess the Importance of Other People’s Opinions
- Time-Travel Your Way to Confidence
- Remember the Time When You Didn’t Have That Fear
- Swish Away Those Bedtime Monsters
- Be the Best Presenter in Your Team
- Escape the Drama Triangle