Intrenion

Books as Frameworks: Family & Relationships

Table of Contents

100 Simple Secrets of Great Relationships (David Niven)

  1. The Mundane Is Heroic
  2. See Possibilities Where Others See Obstacles
  3. Set Rules for Conflict
  4. Anyone Can Find a Happy Relationship
  5. It’s Not How Hard You Try
  6. You Have Nothing to Envy
  7. Attitude Triumphs over Outcome
  8. Don’t Be Bound by Tradition
  9. The Past Is Not the Future
  10. No One Wins the Comparison Game
  11. See the Love Around You
  12. Doing Nothing Is Rarely a Solution
  13. You’ll Forget the Disagreement but Remember the Disagreeing
  14. Pursue What You Need Forever, Not What You Want Today
  15. Seek Harmony in Your Life
  16. The Relationship Test: Are You Lonely?
  17. It’s the Little Things That Matter the Most
  18. A Relationship Requires Two Equals
  19. Beware of Fairy Tales
  20. Cultivate a Common Interest
  21. Treat the Disease, Not the Symptom
  22. There’s No Point in Putting On a Show
  23. You Make Your Own History
  24. Maintain Your Sense of Control
  25. Money Can’t Buy Love, but It Can Buy Stress
  26. There Are No Mind Readers
  27. There’s No Need to Hurry
  28. Friends Speak from Experience - Their Own
  29. Drink Less
  30. Decide Whether You Want to Win or Be Happy
  31. A Sense of Humor Helps
  32. Think Beyond the Engagement
  33. See the Friendship in Your Relationship
  34. The Most Time Is Not the Best Time
  35. Reduce TV Time
  36. The World Will Intrude on Your Relationship
  37. Gentlemen Prefer the Same Things Ladies Prefer
  38. Love Is Blind but Life Isn’t Always
  39. Balance Depends on Which Way You Lean
  40. A Relationship by Any Other Name Is Just as Important
  41. The Future Matters More Than the Past
  42. You Don’t Have to See Eye to Eye on Everything
  43. Be Open with Each Other
  44. Accentuate the Positive in All Aspects of Your Life
  45. It Helps to Be Friends
  46. Foundations Are Created in the Beginning
  47. Ambivalence Is a Negative
  48. Share Housework
  49. A Relationship Starts with Yourself
  50. Let Go of the Burden of Pain
  51. Develop a Healthy Calm
  52. Think of Your Own Ideal
  53. Stay Flexible
  54. Think About Potential
  55. Even in a Relationship, You Are Still an Individual
  56. Rest Up - This Is Going to Take Some Effort
  57. Like the Way You Look
  58. Don’t Romanticize the Past
  59. Share the Praise and Share in the Blame
  60. You Can’t Find Without Looking
  61. Meaningful Commitment Is Mutual Commitment
  62. Friendships Predict Relationships
  63. Prepare for Milestones
  64. Don’t Bring Your Job Home with You
  65. We Assume Similar Preferences
  66. Don’t Let Secrets Eat You Up
  67. To Find a Better Way, Look Where You’ve Been
  68. Money Matters Less over Time
  69. Recognize the Value of Shared Values
  70. Understand What You’re Looking For
  71. Never Let Faults Stand for the Whole
  72. You’ll Need Some Relationship Friends
  73. Don’t Wait to Start Moving in the Right Direction
  74. Music Can Bring Us Together
  75. Define What You Need
  76. Show You Care, Even When It’s Hard To
  77. Make Your Decisions for Positive Reasons
  78. A Relationship Is Built on a Foundation of Support
  79. The Pieces of Your Life Must Fit Together
  80. Master Your Fears
  81. We Are All Much More Alike Than Different
  82. Limit Your Interest in the Past
  83. Get Your Reality from Reality
  84. You Are Never Too Old to Find Love
  85. We Look Inward to See How People Feel About Us
  86. Be Willing to Evolve
  87. Connect, See You’re Capable, and Know You Count
  88. Reliability Counts a Lot
  89. You Are Complete by Yourself
  90. Intensity Fades
  91. Beware Second Opinions
  92. Have Faith but Don’t Forget Reality
  93. Pay Attention
  94. Nice People Don’t Finish Last
  95. Relationships Are like Modern Art
  96. It’s Not Easy, Even if It Looks It
  97. Most People Are Looking for Experienced Rookies
  98. It’s for You - or It Isn’t
  99. See the Horizon, Watch Your Step
  100. The Search for Perfection Is Endless

Secrets of Happy Relationships (Jenny Hare)

  1. Relish the scope and diversity of love
  2. Appreciate the tremendous power of kindness
  3. Communicate
  4. Don’t take everything personally
  5. Live and love in the present
  6. Find empathy and compassion
  7. Affection is the greatest aphrodisiac
  8. Be loyal
  9. Be sensitive, intuitive and perceptive
  10. Cope well with conflict
  11. Make time to be together
  12. Balance work, home and play
  13. Assume nothing - seek only truth
  14. Be generous
  15. Keep attraction vibrant
  16. Embrace intimacy
  17. Respect each other
  18. Share enjoyment of food
  19. Accept and tolerate
  20. Be artists: create your relationship with care and beauty
  21. Persevere
  22. Agree about having - or not having - children
  23. Find solidarity as parents
  24. Take time to be yourselves
  25. Forgive
  26. Take an interest in each other’s ideas, dreams and aspirations
  27. Believe
  28. Be compatible
  29. Positivity pays dividends
  30. Participate
  31. Know when to be quiet and when to speak out
  32. Manners and courtesy
  33. Know each other’s body clock (and other personal mood makers)
  34. Manage your finances
  35. Travel in the same direction
  36. Take your tiger to the mountain
  37. Be upbeat and inspire one another
  38. Laugh together
  39. The fine art of compromise
  40. Think love, choose love
  41. Trust
  42. Rid yourself of petty annoyances
  43. Get the keys to a great attitude to sex
  44. Get the physical keys to great sex
  45. Celebrate romance
  46. Enjoy your own interests independently and share some too
  47. Loving the world and lightening up about it
  48. Creating a home you both love
  49. Surviving families and friends
  50. Looking out for each other’s wellbeing